mistakes people make on dates

According to couples counsellor Barbara Bloomfield, there are common dating mistakes people who claim they are alone make.

 1. Lack of confidence: She says, "Make sure you're feeling confident enough to handle dating, "People go because they're feeling desperate, and that's exactly the wrong time to go on dates. "Wear something comfortable that makes you feel good about yourself."

2. Constantly thinking there is 'the one': "People come to me and say 'I'd like to meet the one'. "You're unlikely to meet one person who is absolutely perfect for you; you are likely to meet lots of people who are good for you," Bloomfield says.

3. Dishonesty after a first date: The couples counsellor says, "A lot of dates go wrong because people are either too shy or worried about being rejected. They end the date without making any decisions. "If you like the person, tell them you like them and would like to see them again. "If you're not sure if you like them, say something like 'shall we think about over night'. "If you don't like them, find something to say. The best thing is something like 'I'm not sure that we've got enough in common. "Be clear with them. If they're a definite no let them down gently but firmly "Don't leave it hanging. So many dates and relationships fall down because most people are shy and unsure and they leave it hanging in the air and haven't got the nerve to get in touch again."

4. No engaging conversation: "People who go on dates have got to learn to look interested. "People who are having a great deal of difficulty with relationships are the ones that fall into the long boring monologues about themselves."I know this, I went on 27 dates to research it and I met 26 people who did this." "Wear something comfortable that makes you feel good about yourself", Bloomfield says.