If your sex life needs revamping then u have got follow these top tips to to keep the spark alive. Lead separate lives: Try to think of your partner as independent from you – your re not joined at the hips.
Imagine them at work, playing a sport or doing something well without you. See them as the vital and interesting individual they are when they are not with you.
This is far sexier than the claustrophobic familiarity that can kill attraction when all you see is the socks left on the floor and your partner slumped on the sofa.
To add more spice, try going to a restaurant or a bar separately and play-act, chatting each other up.
You will relearn to find each other attractive and desirable this way
Learn to read secret signals: If your relationship is full of hostility, you won't have a good love life. Your anger is a barrier to enjoying sex. You have to resolve conflict – don't bottle things up.
Ask him: Can we talk about it? Solve the problem, then you will be able to enjoy each other. Everyone has their favorite things in the bedroom – whether is having their ears nibbled or their feet tickled.
But they are almost always too embarrassed to tell. So how do you discover your partners fantasies?
Look at what they are doing to you! For example, someone who loves having their ears nibbled will nibble on their partner's ears.
Pay attention to your man's moves and you will get an idea of what he wants you to do to him.
Don't worry, be happy: These days, sex is just another lifestyle product and an other way for people to make money by selling us things we don't want or need.
But you don't have to live up to anyone's expectations. A good sex life is one that makes you feel happy and comfortable, whether you are doing it ten times a week or ten times a year, it's quality not quantity that counts.
When you make love, focus on your partner's pleasure, not on your own. The better you are as lovers, the more enjoyable they will get from sex and the more likely they open up and tell you what they require.
Do they want more foreplay? Are you picking the wrong time for sex? Suggest that you bathe together or give them a massage first. Ask for feedback during sex and give them time to become aroused.
Hit the spot: Strip naked together and take it in turns to run your hands slowly over your partner's body, loving it for every wrinkle, fold and flaw. As you do so, tell them what makes them sexy.
Remember a time when you had great sex and talk about it. Take five minutes a day to sit opposite your partner and silently hold hands while looking into each others eyes and think only of what you love about them.
Here is one for the man – learn to pleasure your partner properly! If you are able to give a woman an orgasm, she will be putty in your hands. Make the effort to understand how her body works.
Think about subtle approaches and lead up to sex, don't just steam in.
Increase the amount of foreplay: Find out where her pleasure spot is and what she likes to have done to it.
A woman's body is like an iceberg nine-tenths of it is below the surface!
Be open and honest: You need to talk about what you like and don't like, but sex can be a sensitive subject, so give lots of compliments.
If you start by telling your partner what you like and what he does well, that's a good time to admit that you weren't keen when your ex was too rough, say, or asked you to do things you weren't comfortable with.
Get sex issues out in the open and tackle them before they become a problem. Excite the sex imagination with erotic reading that inspires you.
Talk about your fantasies and tell your partner what you would like to do, even if you are too tired to do it.
Imagine yourself as a strong woman you admire when you do this. Try simmering during the day – leave him sexy notes or send him saucy texts or phone messages so he can't wait to get home.
Peace nice one.......inspiring
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